Let’s be honest, the word networking sounds way fancier than it actually is. It gives “suits and stiff handshakes” when in reality, especially in tech, it can be as casual as geeking out over the latest tech framework or laughing over a meme in a Discord thread.
If you’ve ever entered a tech space (online or in-person) and thought “Uhhh… how do I start talking to these people?” — this one’s for you. Here are real, practical, and slightly humorous tips to help you connect better in the tech community:
1. Start with Curiosity, Not Self-Promotion
Nobody wants to be approached by the digital equivalent of a guy yelling, “HEY, LOOK AT MY GITHUB!” Instead, ask genuine questions. Curious people make great connections. Comment on a post, ask for an opinion, or respond to something someone shared.
“Hey, I saw your post on Python automation — any tips for someone just starting out?”
Boom. You’re in.
2. Join the Right Spaces
You don’t have to be on every Slack group, Discord server, Twitter Space, Reddit thread, Telegram group, and Zoom call. You’ll burn out before you even say hi.
Instead, find just a few focused communities where your interests align, like:
- Local dev groups (👋 hey Ubunihub fam!)
- Open source projects you care about
- Twitter or LinkedIn circles in your field
- Online hackathons and webinars
Consistency matters more than being everywhere.
3. Give Before You Ask
Want to stand out in a sea of “I’m looking for a job/opportunity/help with my bug” messages?
Be a helper. Share a resource. Solve a bug. Recommend a tool. Say something encouraging.
“I saw someone struggling with React state — dropped a quick explanation and a codepen. Two people DM’d me to say thanks!”
That’s real networking — and it often comes back tenfold.
4. Show Up (Even If You Don’t Speak Right Away)
Lurking is underrated. It’s okay to just read and absorb for a while. But showing up regularly in the same spaces builds familiarity. People notice the consistent usernames.
One day you’re silent in the dev channel. Two weeks later, someone tags you in a conversation. You’re part of the crew now.
5. Go Beyond the Keyboard
If you’re feeling brave, attend tech meetups or events (virtual or real-life). The energy hits different when you’re sharing ideas over snacks, whiteboards, or awkward video mics.
Even just turning on your camera or adding a fun bio can humanize you in a sea of faceless avatars.
6. Be Yourself — Cringe and All
Don’t try to be overly polished. People appreciate authenticity. Yes, even if you’re still figuring things out. Especially if you’re still figuring things out.
“Hey everyone, I just broke my local server for the 3rd time today but learned about cron jobs. Progress, right?” 😂
That kind of vulnerability? Gold.
7. Follow Up Without Being Creepy
If someone helped you or had a great chat, follow up! Just shoot a simple message like:
“Hey, just wanted to say thanks again for that insight you shared last week. Helped a lot!”
No pressure, no pitch. Just genuine appreciation. That builds relationships better than anything.
… It’s Not Just About Jobs
Effective networking isn’t just about getting gigs — it’s about finding your people.
The ones who’ll inspire you, challenge you, teach you, laugh with you (and maybe cry over broken build pipelines with you).
Start small. Be real. Keep showing up.
